Over-commitment
It's been a rough week. It's week, I don't know, of homeschooling. 7? 6? Somewhere around there. I've realized that I over committed. I over committed myself and the kids to too many things. I'm stressed, and cranky. They are stressed and cranky too.
Of course everyone likes what they are doing, (Except the teenager, he doesn't like anything, but that's a whole different post for another day). Marlie loves her 2 dance classes, and piano. Blake loves piano and guitar. Everyone loves their school classes, youth group and church nights etc... I love my small group, my playgroup, my 3 dance classes. But boy oh boy, did I over do it. I drove over 60 miles in one day. One day! It wasn't even errands, just pick ups and drop offs from school, church and activities :-(.
Part of my new found stress is being the mother of a high schooler, who is in school. I know it's the right decision for us, for where we are in our lives. But drop offs and picks ups are a PITB, no lie. With 1 kid at one school, and 2 kids at another for full-day classes, my afternoons are full of driving, blah. The other stuff, I did to myself, I committed to too many things. Of course everything is already paid for, and I"m not going to waste the money, so for now I'll stick everything out. But come a few weeks from now, things will a be a little less crazy.
I think a lot of us mothers do this to ourselves, we over commit then wonder why we are so cranky. We wonder why we are grouchy with the kids, or snappy with our husband. Even though I've had 4 kids for nearly 3 years, I sometimes feel like I'm still learning how to manage 4. I need chill time (which for me is dance). I need time to read my Bible and pray. I need time with my husband. I need time with my kids (that isn't me throwing food at them while we load up the car). I can't seem to manage a ton of preplanned things without crashing. I do much better with spontaneity. So for now, until the craziness subsides and I can drop a few activities, I'll do my best to be nice, and not cranky. My verse for the next few weeks is;
Exodus 33:14 And He said, "My presence shall go with you, and I will give you rest."
Of course everyone likes what they are doing, (Except the teenager, he doesn't like anything, but that's a whole different post for another day). Marlie loves her 2 dance classes, and piano. Blake loves piano and guitar. Everyone loves their school classes, youth group and church nights etc... I love my small group, my playgroup, my 3 dance classes. But boy oh boy, did I over do it. I drove over 60 miles in one day. One day! It wasn't even errands, just pick ups and drop offs from school, church and activities :-(.
Part of my new found stress is being the mother of a high schooler, who is in school. I know it's the right decision for us, for where we are in our lives. But drop offs and picks ups are a PITB, no lie. With 1 kid at one school, and 2 kids at another for full-day classes, my afternoons are full of driving, blah. The other stuff, I did to myself, I committed to too many things. Of course everything is already paid for, and I"m not going to waste the money, so for now I'll stick everything out. But come a few weeks from now, things will a be a little less crazy.
I think a lot of us mothers do this to ourselves, we over commit then wonder why we are so cranky. We wonder why we are grouchy with the kids, or snappy with our husband. Even though I've had 4 kids for nearly 3 years, I sometimes feel like I'm still learning how to manage 4. I need chill time (which for me is dance). I need time to read my Bible and pray. I need time with my husband. I need time with my kids (that isn't me throwing food at them while we load up the car). I can't seem to manage a ton of preplanned things without crashing. I do much better with spontaneity. So for now, until the craziness subsides and I can drop a few activities, I'll do my best to be nice, and not cranky. My verse for the next few weeks is;
Exodus 33:14 And He said, "My presence shall go with you, and I will give you rest."
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